By Tina O’Conner

A quote I found on social media, “You cannot solve a problem with the same mind that created it.” In other words, sharing your feelings and thoughts with someone you trust can help you breathe to think clearly.

Several weeks ago I spent time with two of my nieces. When I came home on Sunday, I was met with a personal challenge that caused me to feel quite overwhelmed. By Wednesday, my thoughts had gotten the best of me. I texted a friend. They texted me back. And I began to breathe.

My challenge was not resolved; however, I had allowed myself to share and get out what I was feeling. Another perspective was offered, and I no longer had to carry the burden alone.

From a logical standpoint, I understand why people are hesitant to share. From an emotional standpoint; the idea of sharing is tough. Most of us have the thought about feeling vulnerable.

When a new client comes into my office for the first time, I ask them to share their issues and hopefully their feelings. For most people, this is easier to do with a stranger. Each person I meet is assured this is a safe place, they can feel free to share to their comfort level, and they will not be judged.

The majority of people think it’s healthier to keep our thoughts and feelings all bottled up inside. After I shared with a person I knew would not judge me, I was reminded of this concept.

Again, my challenge was not resolved, but now I could breathe. It takes so much effort and energy to maintain a happy face for everyone and allow our thoughts free reign. Once we share, it’s so much easier to breathe.

It is much easier to understand our challenges when we share them with someone else. If we are lost in our thoughts, it is much harder to capture our thoughts, process our feelings, and breathe.

Most times, we want someone to listen. Most of us know we are the key to resolving our issues. Feeling that vulnerability and awkwardness allows someone to join with us.

Whether you choose to speak with a therapist, friend, family member, spouse, find them. The act of sharing makes the burden easier to bear and opens our heart.

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Tina L. O’Connor, MS, NCC is a Licensed Professional Counselor who has a private counseling practice in Parkesburg. Tina attended college in Phoenixville and West Chester. Tina and her husband Doug have three amazing adult stepchildren and two beautiful grandchildren. Tina can be reached at Experience Positive Therapy via telephone at (610) 857-8089 or email at exppostherapy1@verizon.net.

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