By Tina O’Conner
Some of us struggle with self-doubt. We ask ourselves, should I apply for the promotion, should I participate more in conference calls or staff meetings, does my employer know who I am, when is the best time to ask for a raise?
A boundary exists between how we view ourselves and the professional position we currently hold. Self-doubt lingers on both sides of this boundary. In other words, our environment does not define our core self. Professional circumstances are usually beyond our control. We do not get a say in who our co-workers are, who our supervisor is, and most times how an organization functions.
One way to manage self-doubt is to develop short-term and long-term goals. Asking ourselves what can I accomplish today that will help me accomplish my weekly goal. And then, in turn, my monthly and yearly professional goals. It is much easier to manage my self-doubt for today.
The recovery world focuses on the phrase, “one day at a time.” This positive affirmation is applied to every aspect of our professional lives. For today, this is a goal I will accomplish. I will not focus on the environment (what I cannot control); I will concentrate on my strengths.
Another tool to manage self-doubt is to remember the risks you have already taken. Remember, it’s not the outcome that makes the difference, it’s the journey. What have I learned about myself each time I reached my goal or took a risk. What talent and work ethic allowed me to be in this current position. How do I build on my strengths and creativity?
Keep a running list of risks taken and goals accomplished. Pay attention to how you feel like as each step is taken. Breathe deep and know that self-doubt is not true to you.
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Tina L. O’Connor, MS, NCC is a Licensed Professional Counselor who has a private counseling practice in Parkesburg. Tina attended college in Phoenixville and West Chester. Tina and her husband Doug have three amazing adult stepchildren and two beautiful grandchildren. Tina can be reached at Experience Positive Therapy via telephone at (610) 857-8089 or email at [email protected].
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