By Tina O’Conner

Living versus surviving our lives means something different for each of us.

You all have seen the commercial about how we use “vacation days.” Vacation means “to take a break.” Remember, we are humans and our minds, bodies and hearts need rest.

For trauma survivors, living means I endured something horrific, I survived, and I am doing everything I can to live my life. To those suffering with a mental health issue it means I will manage this symptom. To those suffering from an addiction, it means taking one day at a time. For those grieving, it means honoring their loved one.

For those in the workplace, it means how I can be the most valuable employee today. The hope is we are working in careers that bring meaning to our lives. Even if your current position is not exactly where you would like to be, focus on the positive…this is a stepping stone, what can I learn about myself as an employee, what skills do I currently bring to this position, what skills do I need to learn to move out of this position?

There is something to learn about every time of our lives. Concentrate on the positive and draw from that.

Here are some idea on how to “live” instead of “survive” in the workplace:

1. Take your vacation days to rest and rejuvenate.
2. Develop a “bucket list” and cross them off when done.
3. Some employers provide gym memberships as part of a benefits package.
4. Take your lunch break. Get away from your desk and sit outside.
5. Talk to your human services representative to see if your organization provides an employee assistance program (EAP).
6. Set your personal phone aside and mindfully approach the work day.
7. Make a list of goals to accomplish per day.
8. Prioritize work assignments.
9. Stay off of social media.
10. Talk to your supervisor/manager for support.

Each day brings an opportunity for reflection. The idea of accomplishment helps us determine how we live and not just survived the day.

It’s the journey that brings life and breath not the outcome. Honor the process that moves you from survival to life.

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Tina L. O’Connor, MS, NCC is a Licensed Professional Counselor who has a private counseling practice in Parkesburg. Tina attended college in Phoenixville and West Chester. Tina and her husband Doug have three amazing adult stepchildren and two beautiful grandchildren. Tina can be reached at Experience Positive Therapy via telephone at (610) 857-8089 or email at exppostherapy1@verizon.net.

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Top image courtesy of Chester County Planning Commission.